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27th Oct 2017

‘Sex is a swipe away’ Is monogamy a thing of the past?

In a time of feminism and online dating, is anything really 'forever'?

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Angela Scanlon

We’re tackling monogamy on this week’s episode of Girls With Goals.

Niamh Maher crossed the pond this week to sit down with TV presenter Angela Scanlon and JOE Media’s Head of Brand Rebecca Fennelly. These two Irish boss ladies have been living and working in the UK for the last number of years and as well as discussing emigration, dramatic drone wars, and Richard Branson’s table dancing skills, they touched on the complex issue of monogamy and posed the question… is it obsolete?

Listen in at 35.21  below or keep reading:

Relationships are tough, we all know this. White picket fences and happily ever afters are no longer a certainty, so what’s become the new norm?

Speaking about marriage in general, Angela Scanlon highlights that the whole reason behind getting married to one person has changed;

“The truth is in the olden days, marriage was based on protection. We died a lot younger so the actual period of time you were married was much shorter. It was also a financial thing or a procreation thing and the truth is all of those things you can now do independently (if you choose). Marriage, in the traditional sence, and a lot of the reasons for it are slightly obsolete. In some ways though, this makes it more of a thing because you don’t need to do it, but you also have to endure it for a lot longer”.

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There’s no denying that the world we live in has changed and social media and the digital age has a huge part to play, as Rebecca highlighted;

“Sex is a swipe away, look what technology has done, look at the Tinders and the Bumbles and the Match.coms. These sites have changed us and how we go about our dating lives signicantly and that did not exist when our parents were younger, that being said our biological beings aren’t that different but the world we live in has certainly changed”.

So what about open relationships? Would you be able to be in a relationship when you know the other person is being with someone else… as long as it was all out on the table? Angela was very clear on the topic;

“I don’t think I’d be able to cope with it, my experience of friends being in open relationships is that usually, it’s a compromise for one more than the other. One person instigates it then you get slightly railroaded into something that is inherently not sitting that well with you, and you’ve signed up for it.”

Also on this week’s episode, Niamh Maher talks retirement, bikinis, and strength with World Champion Bodybuilder Jenni Murphy. 

Don’t miss out on the rest of this conversation … Girls With Goals is available to download every Monday morning from 7 am on iTunes and Soundcloud