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20th Mar 2024

The power of accepting that you’re not always going to be likeable

Kat O'Connor

Being likeable is something we need to let go of

We are living in a world that is obsessed with being like, whether that’s in the digital world or real life.

We obsess over how many likes we get on an Instagram post, and we try to impress others as much as possible, but is people pleasing causing more harm than good in our lives?

One of the best things you can do for your own self-worth is to accept the fact that not everyone will like you.

It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or unworthy of being liked, but it is just part of life.

We spend far too much time in our teenage years trying to make sure that everyone likes us but not everyone is going to think you’re likeable.

As wellness expert Caleb Backe says it’s something we shouldn’t take personally.

“It may hurt, but you need to accept the fact that not everyone’s going to like you. There are just some people who you won’t vibe well with.

Caleb added: “Don’t take it personally. It’s not your fault they don’t like you. Someone may not like you because you share a personality characteristic of theirs and they’re not comfortable with it.”

Being likeable is an important factor in life, but we need to understand the difference between being liked and everyone liking you.

Everyone you meet in life isn’t going to like you and that’s perfectly fine. It doesn’t mean you’re not a good person or that there’s something wrong with you. It just means you don’t gel with that person.

Accepting this fact can be incredibly empowering because it takes away from the societal pressure there is to be popular.

You can be loved and cared about, but not popular or the most-liked person in the world

Focusing on making everyone like you can consume you, especially if you’re a natural-born people pleaser.

According to Medical News Today: “A person may feel temporarily good after they please someone, but this feeling does not last.

“They may need to continue doing things for others to feel useful or loved. Ultimately, this harms them, as they have fewer resources to take care of themselves.”

Life is too short to invest wasted time in making everyone like you. Those who like and care about you will make it known. However, letting go of those who don’t is the most empowering move you can make.

As Ines de La Fressange said: “Being unafraid of not being liked is the best way to be liked.”