You have probably seen plenty of articles on Facebook or on Twitter talking about sex, or ways to spice up your game in the boudoir.
But Nicole Prause, principal investigator at the Sexual Psychophysiology and Affective Neuroscience Lab at the University of California, has made reading those articles obsolete.
She has said there is only one guaranteed way that your sex life will get better.
The only way to make sex better, according to Prause, is if couples and partners are open and honest with each other about what they want.
In an interview with NY Mag, and brought to our attention by Indy100, she delved into the world of sex and cautioned people not to spend all their time researching sex, but rather to listen to what your partner wants.
“There’s no such thing as someone who is ‘good at sex,” Prause told Science of Us. “It completely depends on your partner. For example, if you’re someone who loves to be pooped on, I’m never going to be a good partner for you. That’s just not in my repertoire.
“If you like something they’re doing, say ‘I like that’. Use your words. If you can be more specific about what you like about it, do.
“If you really like being choked with a rope, that’s kind of dangerous. Maybe don’t start with that, but talk about it eventually. Start with something more common as a way of building trust.
“But the expertise isn’t embedded in the information,” she says. “It’s embedded in the individual.”