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22nd Dec 2018

Apparently, there’s one glaring sign that a relationship won’t go the distance


Denise Curtin

Sound familiar?

With all the Hollywood break-ups at the moment, we sometimes wonder does love even exist? We feel we’re suffering with our favourite celebs when they call it a day and separate ways.

From Anna Faris and Chris Pratt to Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan, we become so invested in the appearance of a “rock solid” relationship online, that we are left baffled and puzzled when our “relationship goals” drop the news that everything isn’t actually all as it seems.

And according to a study done by the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, couples with high social or public visibility AKA the “relationship over-sharers”, are often the ones masking relationship insecurity.

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According to the study, their data is rooted in phycological “attachment theory” which looks at how couples connect and form bonds. The research explains that couples with anxious attachment styles need more reassurance in their relationship and therefore crave a higher visibility to make them feel secure in their relationship. This also roots into trust too, someone who doesn’t feel they can always trust their partners will often overshare as a way of reminding people that there relationship is “going strong”.

“On a daily basis, when people felt more insecure about their partner’s feelings, they tended to make their relationships visible,” the researchers discussed with Cosmopolitan.

“These studies highlight the role of relationships in how people portray themselves to others” they added.

So it seems that the couples who tend to excessively post are the ones who are trying to find validation through their images. An interesting thought because practically all of us will read this and a couple will automatically spring to mind that tends to post every single aspect of their time together.

Now, this is not to say that some couples are so insanely in love that they want the world and its mother to know but it does make you think why? What is so insanely wrong with sharing that moment solely with the person who is actually there for it? Maybe their is truth behind some of the best things being left “unshared”.