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21st Apr 2017

How to make a woman orgasm (in a few easy steps)

Brought to you by Durex. 

If you’re struggling to reach the big ‘O’ then keep reading.

We caught up with sex expert and Sex Siopa owner Shawna Scott to get the lowdown on the best way to get your kicks. Here’s what she had to say. 

Making most women orgasm isn’t that difficult, but our society has put plenty of cultural barriers in place to make it much more of a challenge. We’re conditioned from a young age to be polite, “ladylike” and deferential towards men.

Then on top of that, depending on whether or not you won the sex education lottery in school, you mightn’t have been given the proper vocabulary for female genitalia. How many times have we heard or used the word “vagina” as a catch-all term for everything we’ve got going on down there? We have an absolute cornucopia of pleasure possibilities in our pants, and yet this reduces our sexual experience down to just one part.

Did you know that the clitoris is both an internal and external organ? That pea-sized nub at the top of the vulva is literally just the tip of the iceberg. It reaches out behind the vulva and hugs the vaginal canal. So when you hear about people having g-spot orgasms, they’re still having a clitoral orgasm, just an internal one.

However, despite what film and television may portray as “normal,” only 70-75% of woman can orgasm through penetration alone. This is key when advocating for yourself or your female partner’s pleasure. It’s probably the most important piece of information you can have in your sexual arsenal, because there’s no magic, one-size-fits-all method to making a woman orgasm. In the same way that all penises are different shapes and sizes, so too are clitorises.

If you want to give a gal an amazing orgasm, ask questions about what she likes and listen. If you’re a woman and you’re not sure what makes you feel good and gets you aroused, it’s time to spend some time with yourself to get to know your body. Use your hands or toys or both, and when it comes time to getting it on with a partner, be demonstrative in how you like to orgasm. Learning what turns us on and teaching each other through good communication is what will close the orgasm gap, and it will make the world a much sexier place to be in.

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