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12th Apr 2015

Spotlight On: Not Feeling Like Having Sex This Week? This Could Be Why…

We answer all of the questions that you are too afraid to ask.


Over the last number of months, we’ve learned a thing or two about the wide range of contraceptives that are available on the market today.

Now, we are going to continue our focus on health by studying a wide range of different illnesses and ailments.

Last week, we saw why having a good sex life is great for your health.

This week, we will be looking at ways to deal with a loss of libido or sex drive.


What is loss of libido?

Loss of libido affects one in five men and even more women at some stage of their life.

A loss in sex drive is usually linked to external stresses including professional and personal pressures.

An important life-changing event can also affect one’s libido.

However, an unexpected loss of sex drive, particularly one that lasts for some time or keeps returning, may indicate an underlying medical, personal or lifestyle problem.

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Relationship problems

If you lose your sex drive unexpectedly, take a closer look at your relationship and examine whether you are happy. Are there any doubts or worries that may be affecting you?

Perhaps you have been with your partner for some time and there may be issues that you both need to discuss. Sit down and talk them out or consult with a relationship support charity.

Performance problems

If there is a performance issue, it can make sex difficult and frustrating. Men can be suffering from erectile dysfunction or ejaculation problems while women may be experiencing pain during sex or vaginismus.

These issues are treatable so take a trip to your GP who will be able to help you and your partner.


Under the influence

Drinking excessive amounts of alcohol has been proven to reduce your sex drive. You should moderate your intake, and if you feel that you or your partner needs extra support in this area, consult your GP.

The misuse of drugs is also linked to a loss of sex drive.


Stress, anxiety and exhaustion are all enormous factors in the reduction or loss of sex drive. They each have a massive impact on your overall happiness and well-being.

If you are feeling this way constantly, it may be that you need to change an aspect of your lifestyle. Again, consult your GP for the options that are best for you.


Ageing gracefully

Many people lose some interest in sex as they get older. This is due to a fall off in sex hormones, age-related health problems and sometimes the side effects of medication.

If you are concerned about this, check in with your GP.

Sex and the menopause

As women near the menopause the level of the female hormone oestrogen falls which can affect your libido.

Speak to your GP if you feel that the menopause may be affecting you in this way.


Although not as common, a low libido can also be caused by an underactive thyroid. This can be treated by taking hormone tables to replace the hormones your thyroid is not making. Once more, contact your GP if you feel you have an underactive thyroid.

You forget to take your pill every now and then: It won’t kill you but it could get you pregnant. According to research, for every 100 women who take the pill, between two and nine get pregnant each year due to errors like forgetting a pill or starting a new pack later than they should. If you forget your pill, take it as soon as you remember and use backup birth control, like a condom for a week.


Some forms of contraception are known to affect some women’s sex drive. These include the combined pill, contraceptive patch, the implant and the injection.

These side effects usually right themselves after the initial few months. Speak to your local GP if you are still experiencing these issues.

As always, if you feel that you are affected by any of these issues, make an appointment with your GP.