Her Wedding: How much should you give as a cash gift at a wedding?

Sophie Collins

When it comes to giving a cash gift at a wedding, the amount can vary widely based on factors such as relationship closeness, personal budget, and tradition

The fact that you need to put a figure on it, that’s not wildly more or less than the other people in attendance, can put pressure on people.

But there are a whole host of factors to consider when you’re trying to decide.

We asked people on the streets of Dublin what they thought was the correct thing to do and it the answers varied, but there was a relatively general consensus.

Around €100 and Up

A common starting point for many is €100. As one person put it, “Anywhere from like €100 up if you’re really good friends with them like or a family member.”

This suggests that for close friends and family, €100 is considered a minimum, with the potential for higher amounts based on the relationship and personal financial situation.

Base It On Budget

There’s an understanding that everyone’s financial situation is different. “Everyone’s budget is different so I don’t think you should be looked down upon for giving less but I’d say the same as you, like, €100?”

This perspective emphasises that the thought and effort behind the gift are more important than the exact amount, and that guests should not feel pressured to give beyond their means.

Presents

For some, the focus should be on attending the wedding rather than the gift amount. “I don’t think they’d be annoyed at you giving less or giving more, they just want you to be there.”

This highlights that many couples value the presence of their guests more than the monetary gifts they bring.

Couples

When considering gifts from couples, some suggest higher amounts. “I would’ve said about €250, would that be it?”

This figure suggests that when two people attend, the gift amount might be expected to increase.

Another person added, “I actually just had this debate at work and apparently it’s €100 a head. So, like, €200 per couple or €150 for a single if it’s a cousin or something or a really, really close friend, more.”

So gifts from couples might often be in the range of €200, reflecting both contributions.

Uncertainty

Not everyone has a clear idea of the appropriate amount. “I’ve no idea?” and “What’s like the normal?” show that some guests, particularly those less experienced with weddings, may feel uncertain about how much to give.

Additionally, one person shared: “I’ve been to one wedding when I was like four so I don’t have any concept of what’s like.”

Interestingly, not everyone prefers giving cash. “I would just probably never give cash.” This suggests that some guests might opt for tangible gifts or other forms of expressing their congratulations and support for the couple.

While €100 per person seems to be a common baseline, the actual amount can increase for closer relationships or couples attending together.

It’s important to consider your own budget and the relationship you have with the couple.

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