Foreplay – it can be a tricky subject. While you may like drawing the experience out and savouring every last moment, your partner may enjoy getting to the main event as quickly as possible.
No matter what you and your partner think about foreplay, there’s no denying that it’s an essential part of having sex. It helps to get you into the right frame of mind, it relaxes you, it turns you on and, most importantly, it allows you to connect intimately with your other half before the main event.
If it’s been awhile since you spent a prolonged amount of time on the art of foreplay, why not head to bed early this weekend and rediscover it?
Here are five tips to help you and your partner build up the anticipation and make your foreplay last longer…
Start your foreplay as early in the day as possible
1. Start early: Who says that foreplay has to start directly before you get down and dirty? We all know that sex is much more satisfying when there’s a sense of anticipation attached to it. With that idea in mind, why not start building up the sexy tension hours before the main event?
Think about sex as early as possible during the day. Allow yourself to look forward to what’s going to happen later on. If you’re feeling a little cheeky, send your man a text message outlining all the things you want to do to him when he gets him. If you start early, both you and your partner will be majorly aroused by the time you see each other later, which means the sex will be better and oh-so-satisfying.
2. Get touchy-feely: Okay, we’ll admit that this is a bit of a cliche but never underestimate the power of a good pre-sex massage. Before you get too naughty, ask your man if he’d like a massage. Look up a few massage techniques online and buy some oil to make it even more sensual.
As well as helping the two of you to relax, the simple act of touching each other in a non-sexual way can make the actual sexual touching of foreplay even more rewarding. Try taking turns giving each other massages. Experiment with massages on different parts of your body. If you want to make it even sexier, use your body to massage his.
3. Slow it down: Is your man always in a rush to have sex? Try taking control of the situation and ask him to slow down. Tell him to relax and spend some time touching him. If he tries to touch you, lightly slap his hand away and tell him that you’re in charge for the time being – this means that you can take things at your own pace.
Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want in terms of foreplay
4. Speak up: Despite the fact that he probably knows you inside out at this stage, your partner can’t read your mind. Gently guide him if he looks a little lost and doesn’t know what to do in terms of foreplay. Tell him that you like it when he strokes your body or kisses you. Heat things up by getting a little Fifty Shades of Grey and give him a direct order. Take it in turns to give each other requests.
5. Tease for as long as possible: There’s a common misconception that foreplay has to stop as soon as the two of you are aroused. This isn’t true. Keep things going by teasing your other half until he’s super-excited and then stop. Allow him to calm down and then get started again. According to relationship experts, men generally tend to rush towards sex because they worry they won’t be able to , ahem, keep things vertical. By continually teasing him, he’ll have a stronger orgasm and he’ll stay harder for longer.
