“Being a good lover is first and foremost a skill of the mind”.
The School of Life is a global organisation devoted to emotional education.
It focuses on the subjects and topics of self-understanding, relationships, emotional intelligence and things that are generally not on the school or college curriculum.
In the most recent upload to its YouTube channel, The School of Life explains ‘The Fear of Being Bad in Bed’.
The video, which was created in collaboration with Patrick Smith, looks at the common misconception of physical attributes and performance in bed.
Good sex is actually a state of mind.
Three anxieties tend to dominate in the fear of being bad in bed:
1). Attractiveness
2). Knowledge
3). Stamina
What lies at the core of eroticism is not the ability to flex your body but sexual pleasure is more accurately explained by stemming from certain manoeuvres of the mind.
“Being a good lover is first and foremost a skill of the mind”.
The person who is good in bed is someone who “encourages, endorses and legitimates our secret lonely selves”.
“Sexiness is the excitement of feeling released from the restrictive taboos of the rest of our lives.
“It’s a safe mutually caring place where we can take someone else into the not entirely responsible somewhat cruel and mad sides of us”.
Basically, it’s about a mutual nakedness of the mind made possible through trust.
