What do you think?
Weddings can be very expensive, but it’s an expense for the couple to take on primarily and make it work as best they can.
Some people are fortunate enough that they can get some help from their family in terms of money, which lessens the burden, but others are not in that position and must pay for it themselves.
This bride, who has already received money from her own parents, is being criticised online for wanting more money from her husband-to-be’s family.
She wrote on Mumsnet seeking advice saying:
“Fiancé and I are getting wed in June. Date set. Registry office and reception booked. All very exciting and I can’t wait to marry him.
My parents very generously offered us a substantial contribution to the wedding. We honestly didn’t expect it, but we are very grateful. We will of course be covering some costs ourselves too. The wedding isn’t going to be especially expensive anyway as we have very little money to spend.
However my fiancé’s family have not offered us a penny towards anything. His parents are both divorced and remarried. Although neither are rich, they aren’t on the breadline either. His mother is probably the most comfortably off to the point of only having to work very part time.
Now, I know that they are not obligated to offer us anything. I’m just finding it very hard to accept that neither cares enough to offer even a token gesture towards our big day. Perhaps I am being petty, but I’m struggling with the idea of them turning up and being treated on the same footing as my parents, who will have helped so much to make it a lovely day.”
People have been very quick to disagree with her, criticising her for even suggesting they need to contribute.
One person said, “You are being very very unreasonable, why does them offering to give you money to get married equate to them caring?” while another added, ” Since when has the groom’s family been obliged to contribute. You plan a wedding according to your budget.”
One other person said:
“You don’t know everything about your partners parents finaces so maybe they can’t afford to offer, maybe they are fouscing on there future/pensions.
You are both adults decided to marry and in my mind it is to you to pay for it.
Why shouldn’t his parents be treated on the same footing as your parents on the wedding day? They are still his parents. Yes I think that is a petty way to think.”
Someone else on the thread wasn’t afraid to hold back either saying:
“You don’t know their money situation. You’re a grown ass woman, you shouldn’t expect anything from anyone.
Traditionally, anyway, it’s the brides parents who paid for the wedding, not the grooms.”
