It’s worth a try.
When it comes to long term relationships people find that the buzz from the start of the relationship, when you can’t keep your hands off each other, has dwindled quite a bit. Not entirely but certainly not like the ‘honeymoon period’.
But that’s actually a good thing, according to sex therapist and relationship counsellor Desiree Spierings, who says, “That phase can’t last, otherwise you would never go to work again. You are too obsessed with that person and it has to change.”
During the start of a relationship you experience a strong sexual chemistry which comes as a result of different hormones in the body, including dopamine, norepinephrine, phenylethylamine, estrogen and testosterone.
And while that spark might be gone in longer relationships, it turns out you can get that feeling back from some of your hobbies and it can improve your sex life.
According to ABC, watching scary movies can lead to more sex. The hormones you produce when you’re experiencing fear are the same ones you experience when you are lusting after your partner.
It does come with some advice though – don’t intentionally scare your partner to elicit sex but rather enjoy a good scary movie together and let things happen from there.
The other thing you can do t0 add more sex to your life is to take up a new active hobbie or do something different. Desiree advises couples to come up with a ‘bucket list’ of things to do together to spice things up. The key factor is that the hobbie or activity must be scare-inducing.
Desiree adds:
“We are creatures of habit so once we like something, we tend to stick to it, which also goes for the dates we tend to go on with our partner. Often we end up going to the same restaurant, to the same parks, same cinemas.”
“Changing this around by going for a walk in a different area [or] trying a new restaurant. Just by doing something different, [you] can create this feeling of excitement towards your partner.”
Would you try these?
