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03rd Dec 2016

This woman had the perfect answer to someone who called her engagement ring pathetic

We think the ring is beautiful

She handled it perfectly.

Society seems to have put an unnecessary pressure on couples to have a certain type of engagement ring. It is meant to be gold or silver with a big diamond, or several sitting in the centre.

And while they are beautiful, who said the ring had to look like that? Or that you had to have a ring at all.

An American woman was recently shamed for having a smaller-than-average engagement ring and took to Facebook to vent about it.

Ariel McRae was shopping with her husband when a shop worker called the ring they were about to buy ‘pathetic’.


She had a very calm response to the shop worker, which you have to admire, but perfectly highlighted the issue in a post on Facebook which went viral.

”My husband doesn’t have a lot, neither of us do. We scrape and scrape to pay bills and put food in our bellies, but after almost 2 years of dating we decided that we couldn’t wait anymore, so we didn’t.

I wasn’t even thinking about rings, I just wanted to marry my best friend, but he wouldn’t have it. He scraped up just enough money to buy me two matching rings from Pandora. Sterling silver and CZ to be exact. That’s what sits on my ring finger, and I am so in love with them.

While we were purchasing my rings however, another lady that was working there came over to help the lady selling them to us. She said, “Y’all can you believe that some men get these as engagement rings? How pathetic.” When she said that I watched my now husband’s face fall. He already felt bad because he couldn’t afford the pear-shaped set that so obviously had my heart and covered my Pinterest page. He already felt like a failure, asking me again and again “Are you sure you’ll be happy with these? Are you sure this is okay?” He was so upset at the idea of not making
me happy enough and of me not wanting to marry him because my rings didn’t cost enough money or weren’t flashy enough.

Old Ariel would have ripped that woman a new one. Mature Ariel said, “It isn’t the ring that matters, it is the love that goes into buying one that is.” We bought the rings and left.

Y’all I would have gotten married to this man if it had been a 25¢ gum ball machine ring. When did our nation fall so far to think the only way a man can truly love a woman is if he buys her $3,000+ jewelry and makes a public decree of his affection with said flashy ring? Sure they are nice, sure the sentiment is wonderful and I’m not trying to cut down any of your experiences, but when did it come to all that? Why do material possessions equate love??

My husband was so afraid of me not wanting him because he couldn’t afford a piece of jewelry. He was afraid that the love I have for him would pale because he couldn’t afford the wedding set I wanted. The world has made it this way and it is so sad.

But here I am though, Court-House married, $130 ring set, the love of my life by my side and happier than I could ever imagine.”

Ariel made an excellent point which is evident in the amount of attention her post received.

She posted an update thanking people for their support as it has now been shared over 48 thousand times.

Not that it matters, but we think the ring is beautiful.

You can read the full post below.