An English woman has revealed she believes she’s “too attractive to use dating websites.”
Paula Jayne Allen has shared her experiences of dating online, having previously signed up with eHarmony and Match.com five years ago.
The 33-year old claims she was so pretty she couldn’t find a man who loved her for her personality, but instead just wanted her as a piece of “arm candy”.
In an interview with Mail Online, now married Allen revealed her experience with online dating sites after a columnist with the website shared her own battles with finding love on the web due to being overweight:
“Verity is thinking that once she has lost this weight, everything will change and all of these men will come out of the woodwork. But it doesn’t change, in fact it only gets worse.
“You get all of these men wanting one night stands or who want you to sit there, be quiet and just be arm candy. I went on two dating websites – Match.com and eHarmony – about five years ago, just before I met my now-husband and it was awful.”
She added:
“I am a size six, with long blonde hair and blue eyes and have done a bit of modelling in the past. When it came to trying to find a man who would see me as more than just ‘piece of meat,’ it was so hard. I just felt like eye candy.”
As well as being approached for one-night stands, the blonde mother of two says she felt used by men who were only interested in dating her to impress their friends:
“If you did meet people online and then go out for a drink with them away from the websites, they’d take you out to where their mates were and they’d just want you to stand there.”
Paula also felt like her date’s friend’s girlfriends were threatened by her looks and would often give her disapproving looks:
“Some of them I’d talk to a couple of times online and then they’d take me out in front of their friends and their male friends would look me up and down and give me the approving look.
“Then their female friends would grab hold of their men and give you the female equivalent of the snarl and you’d think to yourself, ‘I’m really not after your man!’ It got frustrating, it got disheartening and I gave up.”
Paula eventually reconnected with an ex-boyfriend after using the dating sites, who she went on to marry.
Paula hopes by sharing her story that she’ll encourage other women to realise that difficulty in finding love is not down to weight:
“I’ve never won awards or used my beauty to get anywhere. My best friend is a size 20, but she doesn’t care in the slightest – we’re like little and large – and but she gets more attention than I do because she has so much confidence.”
Paula on her wedding day with husband Mark.
Images via MailOnline
