From a young age, we’ve been told that men are only after one thing, and unfortunately that thing is usually of a filthy nature (the dirty animals!). Now however, a new book is claiming that men actually don’t want sex. All they way is some emotional intimacy (yes, our eyebrows were raised too).
A new book entitled Challenging Casanova: Beyond the Stereotype of the Promiscuous Young Male is ripping up the myth that all men are players who just want to get more notches in their bedpost. Instead the book is proposing that young men are just like us – in that they’re looking for something more.
“The Casanova myth is so deeply ingrained that people are convinced that boys who claim to want relationships rather than casual sex are either incredibly rare, or full of crap,” said psychology professor Andrew Smiler, the author of the book.
Player or secret prince charming? The new book maintains that all men want monogamy
Dr Smiler told Jezebel that the notion of the promiscuous male is passed down through generations and that there is very little truth in it.
The psychologist maintains that while there are a small percentage of ‘players’ who are solely interested in having as much sex as possible, another small group of young men also just want a “traditional, romantic approach to dating.”
We know that within any group there are always a few fells who are the exception (in this case, in a group of players you’re always bound to find one nice, decent guy) however, we find it hard to believe that the Casanova thing is a myth.
What do you think ladies? Deep down does every bed-hopping player just wants a nice, stable, emotionally intimate relationship or do you think some fella have no interest in monogamy?
