When it rains, it pours but when you’re in the grips of a major sex drought with your man, it can feel like the rain is never going to return (metaphorically speaking that is).
It can be a tricky situation but don’t worry ladies – we’ve got you covered. You see, sex droughts happen the whole time. It doesn’t matter if you’re a new couple or a veteran couple, there is one thing that thwarts most established relationships – mismatched sex drives. There are always going to be times when one of you wants it more than the other.
So what’s a girl to do when she’s been left high and dry by her male counterpart? How should you cope when the rivers have run dry in your otherwise eh… moist relationship?
Here are a few tips to help you out (and hopefully get the waters of passion flowing yet again).
Problems in the bedroom are a common occurrance so it’s important to know how to deal with them
Remember that this isn’t about you: As soon as your man passes up the opportunity to get jiggy with you, alarm bells start to ring. This is only natural. However, it’s important not to assume that his sudden low sex drive has anything to do with you. Men are sensitive creatures and there are loads of things that can put a dampener on his desire – work stress, depression, illness, the list goes on.
Changes are he still finds you ridiculously attractive, he just doesn’t have the energy or desire to express his level of interest in a physical way.
The worst thing you could do is to attack your partner and start demanding to know why he’s not pestering you for a ride. Instead, try leaving him alone for a week or two and if nothing has happened within that time, sit him down for a gentle talk about the problem.
Touch him lots (but in a non-sexual way): It’s important that you maintain physical contact with your man during this time, but make sure that you’re not doing it in a pervy way – this will only stress him out even more. Instead give him lots of kisses, cuddles and hugs. This will help to remind him that you’re still crazy about him, even if he’s having trouble in the bedroom department. Physical affection will also help to deepen your connection, so he may start to open up to you about the problem without any coaxing.
Make him feel respected and needed: For men, having sex helps them to assert their manhood (it’s a primal, caveman type thing). So understandably, if your man can’t perform, his ego is likely to take a severe battering. Give your fella a much-needed boost by helping to cultivate that same feeling of masculinity that he gets from having sex with you. Tell him how much you need him and admire him. Men are a species that crave admiration, so throw him some positive praise – it’ll work wonders.
Give him a deadline: If your man is still dealing with his problem after six weeks, it’s time to sit him down, have a chat and maybe convince him to go and see his GP. Explain to him that you’ve noticed he’s been out of sorts and tell him that you love him and just want to make sure that he’s okay. Remember, be gentle and listen to everything he tells you. At the end of your conversation give him and hug and a kiss and tell him that you love him and will help him get over any issues he’s having.
