When you’re in a long-term relationship it can sometimes be hard to make your other half a priority. We’ve all experienced the frantic juggle that occurs when life and work get in the way of cosy nights with your fella and sometimes this juggle can cause cracks to form .
We all know that relationships are things that continually require work and effort, so how can you keep yours on track?
Here are a few simple tips that can crack-proof your love life…
Feel a bad mood coming on? Warn him…
1. Use the bad mood rule: If you or your man feels a bad mood coming on, make it a point to tell each other how you feel as soon as possible. Giving your partner a head’s up about your bad mood before you snap the head off him, shows him that he shouldn’t take your mood personally and vice versa. We all have bad moods every now and then. By using the bad mood rule, you get the luxury of being cranky without causing a fight.
Sometimes we project our feelings onto our other half
2. What’s going on with you? Every time you start feeling upset or angry, stop for a minute and ask yourself ‘What’s going on with me right now?’ Nine times out of ten your feelings aren’t cause of something your partner has or hasn’t done, you’re just projecting your feelings onto them. Seriously, check your emotions before you unleash them on your partner – it could save you both a lot of heartache in the future.
Alone-time is important for any relationship
3. Make alone-time a priority: When you’re in a relationship it’s natural to want to spend every waking moment together but this can cause issues in and of itself. Therefore it’s important to make sure that both you and your man are getting enough ‘me-time.’ Spend one evening a week doing something without your partner and use this time to indulge your own interests – go to the cinema with the girls, take up a yoga class or chill out with a good book.
Give your man the space to hang out with his friends, play videogames or play football. Space can work wonders on your relationship because when you do hang out, you’ll have loads of fun things to tell each other about your adventures.
If you have something important to say, say it face-to-face
4. Face-to-face communication is key: If you have to have any important conversations with your man try to have them face-to-face. Actually being in front of each other means that your communication will be clearer and the process is likely to have a more positive outcome. It also gives you the chance to be affectionate and communicate with body language.
Make time for cuddling
5. Cuddle more: Physical affection is so important when it comes to relationships and sadly, it doesn’t happen enough in most relationships. Physical affection helps to bond us to our partners and connect with them on a deeper level, therefore in order to have a healthier, happier relationship, experts advise setting time aside to cuddle. Try going to bed 15 minutes earlier every night so you can wrap up in your man’s arms and hug it out – it’s the perfect way to end the day.
