We all know that relationships can be tough and if you had your fair share of relationship drama in 2012 then maybe it’s time you started 2013 on a more positive note.
The New Year is the perfect time to forget the past and work on creating some positive relationship habits that will ensure the next 12 months of your life are full of love, laughter and a happy partnership with your other half.
Here are a few tips that will help to get your relationship off to a flying start this January.
Be transparent: It sounds like a no-brainer but it is so important to be open and honest with your man. If something is bothering you be direct and tell him what it is. It goes without saying that men are virtually clueless when it comes to decoding the many meanings behind our single response of “FINE!” if he asks us if anything is wrong. Cut him some slack and promise that you’re going to be more honest and direct with your feelings.
Decode your complaints: When we have a problem, too often we tend to nag in order to get our point heard. Instead of saying things like “you never kiss me anymore” simply cut to the chase and ask him to kiss you or offer one to him. Voicing a desire instead of nagging your partner will encourage him to connect more with you.
Likewise if your partner is nagging you, try to hear the desire that’s underneath his plea. For example, if he says: “How come I always have to leave the rubbish out?” respond by saying “You’re right” and doing the task instead. This will help him to feel like you’re really listening to what he’s saying.
Make 2013 the year that your relationship is happy and stress-free
Give some goodness every single day: Whether it’s offering him a cup of tea after he’s had a hard day or simply telling him he looks great in that new top, kind words and thoughtful actions are the basis of every solid relationship.
Be brave: Sometimes it feels easier to avoid difficult conversations or conflict. However avoiding these things can seriously damage your relationship. You need to be brave when it comes to talking about the difficult issues that arise. Take a risk in 2013 by promising to be brave – your relationship will benefit from it greatly.
Remind him: Tell him that you love him every single day. It sounds silly, but sometimes the words just need to be heard. Before he goes to work in the morning, tell him then. Send him a text during the day telling him. Try to say it once a day and watch as your connection grows.
