Ah new love, is there anything better than the buzz it gives you? Everything is perfect. Your world is full of wonder again and you get ridiculously excited every time someone mentions the name of your new man (even though you’ll never, ever admit it to him in person).
When you’re in the first flushes of a new love everything about your fella is new and exciting. The things you do together are fantastic. You love learning about him and his life, and every second of time that you spend together is absolutely wonderful.
But we all know that unfortunately these feelings, great and all as they are, fade over time. When you’ve been with your other half for a year, two years, five years, that love-buzz tends to dampen down to little more than a hum (if you’re lucky).
So how can you kick-start those dormant feelings of wonder and excitement again? How do you bring back that new love buzz?
Well…it’s easier than you think…
Remember why you fell in love with him in the first place.
Listen, REALLY listen to him: Okay ladies, let’s be honest – when you’ve been with himself for a few years you master the art of tuning out his rants about football, his soliloquys about his Xbox and his moaning about certain things. If you want to rediscover the spark that you had at the beginning of your relationship try listening to him rather than drowning out his voice.
Listen to what he likes and dislikes. Ask him about his day. Actually engage with him and enjoy listening to them. Relationship experts always state that communication is key to a happy partnership and hey, having a bit of banter with him will help to remind you what a great guy he really is.
Love-up your vocabulary: After you’ve been together for a while, you stop whispering sweet nothings into each other’s ears, you stop flirting and you’re not shy about bitching at him to pick his boxers up off the bedroom floor. Try adding a bit more love and affection to your daily vocabulary. Have a cheeky flirt with him when he gets home from work. Tell him you love him when you’re snuggled up on the sofa watching telly together. Start calling him by that nickname you gave him at the start of your relationship. Use your voice to inspire a mood of affection. This will encourage him to reciprocate and you’ll both be whispering vows of love to each other in no time.
Notice the new things: If he gets a haircut, notice it and pay him a compliment. If he looks sexy when he hasn’t shaved for four days, tell him. If he blows your mind with his new chicken broccoli bake recipe, rave about how amazing it is. Noticing the new things about him will help you to build on your initial attraction to him. Over time we tend to become blind to new insights that we gain about our partner – make a decision to constantly notice (and point out) the new to him and your relationship will always be fresh and exciting.
Make eye contact: When you wake up first thing in the morning, spend five minutes gazing into his eyes. Likewise, before you go to sleep, have a conversation while maintaining eye contact with him. When you’re having sex, having cuddles, having a meal – try and sneak in a little bit of eye contact. Nothing bonds couples faster than a bit of gaze-on-gaze action. Fact.
