Some crises are just unfathomable. This is one of them.
Reddit user awakiri2 is living an absolute horror as she’s just unearthed proof that her Mother and her husband were past lovers. Taking to the forum, she posted her predicament:
I’m so nervous I’m not even thinking clearly right now. I haven’t talked to him yet but I need some perspective. I was cleaning the house. I opened the closet and realized that there were a ton of shoe boxes there. I thought they are unnecessary I’m gonna throw them away. I’m taking them outside and realized that there is a small USB drive inside of one. I’m a very curious person. I should not have seen it but my curiosity got the best of me.
In that thing there are over 50 pictures of my husband and my mom having sex. I felt one thousand times betrayed when I saw them. I supposed the pictures are from before we got married they were at my mom’s house but she doesn’t own that house anymore. My husband used to work for my mom that’s how I met him but he was just an employee it never crossed my mind there was any attraction since my mom is 30 years older than him. I don’t even know if I want to confront him about this it is just so disgusting in my mind. Neither of them ever told me about being together and my mom was really happy for me when she was at my wedding. I just feel so fucking weird. What should I do?
The situation has spurred some serious Internet debate. Fellow Reddit users are split between the idea to confront them, or to remain in blissful ignorance.
From the don’t confront side:
What happened before you got together with whoever is history and not their business. I wouldn’t dream of demanding an accounting of everyone my SO had fucked, that’s just preposterous. I’d assume there had been some, but I wouldn’t even want to know who, any more than I’d want to tell her about all my past history. It’s history.
Nothing good can come from knowing that, and many things bad.
Anything before they were explicitly exclusive is fair game, and no one owes her a detailed description of prior sex life. Her mom and her husband may have had a short fling, ended it amicably, and decided never to speak about it again months before he even met. Quite understandable that they wouldn’t have brought it up with her.
Figure out what is important first. If this is something you will never be able to get over, then there isn’t much reason to talk with your husband.
From the HELL YEAH CONFRONT side:
Seriously? How are there so many people that find it morally acceptable to never tell the person? Relationships with trust involve sharing details of your previous partners, especially if they’re your freaking mother.
Is this a joke? Homeboy fucked her mom. He fu*ked her mom. You don’t marry someone whose mom you fu*ked and don’t tell them.
If you fu*k MY MOM? And don’t think it’s worth mentioning? And you keep that secret and MARRY me? Holy shit, you’d better RUN.
What do you think? Let us know @herdotie!
