Couples reveal this phrase means more in a relationship than “I Love You”

While it’s always nice to hear those three little words of comfort, apparently ‘I love you’ comes second to another important phrase touted by couples in a supported, caring relationship.

When we think of some of the most important moments where we turn to a partner, there’s always going to be the ups and the downs. Whether you’ve bagged that promotion, made the 5K or are stressing out with a work project, emotional support comes part and parcel of any healthy and happy relationship. Now one relationship expert suggests we start asking a pretty practical question the next time there’s an upset in the relationship: “How can I help?” The question could prove more effective than any professions of love, with New York based psychologist Jane Greer attributing the simple act of kindness has more emotional value to a partner than those three magic words. Supporting the argument to take the hands-on approach to conflict rather than offer up the phrase of love, Greer says: "A lot of times, we will look to help by offering advice, which typically is the last thing someone wants to hear or will find helpful. “"How can I help?" conveys five important things: You're tuned in to your partner, aware of what they're going through, considering their feelings and needs, empathetic to their situation, and looking to help out on a supportive, concrete level.” So next time your other half is having a rough day, offering up some practical help might be more beneficial to your relationship in the long-run.