Planning a wedding is always going to be stressful.
But you have to remember that it’s not about what the guests want – it’s about what you and your partner want.
It is your day, after all.
This bride has asked on Facebook if it would be rude for her to opt out of an open bar. In the post, she says that neither her or her husband drink, however they are happy to let their guests do so.
She also mentions that it’s a daytime brunch event, with the whole thing ending at 3.30pm.
She wrote:
“Would I be the jerk if we don’t have an open bar? It’s a brunch wedding, the whole reception is at a small restaurant from 9:30am to 3:30pm.
“We’re having a full brunch, large dessert table, and all juice, sodas, and specialty coffees are provided. We’re talking about doing drink tickets, a toonie bar, and neither of us really want to do an open bar but we haven’t ruled it out.
“Neither my fiancé or I drink alcohol at all for various reasons, don’t keep alcohol in the house. If we invited guests over for dinner at home or a celebration we provide all the food but we don’t serve alcohol, we’ve had guests bring their own before. ‘We never thought of a dry wedding, we don’t care if people drink.
“I don’t want an open bar and I think giving a few drink tickets are fine, but we’re still struggling to decide.”
Many were up and down on the issue, with some saying it would be polite for her to do so, however others thought that she should just do what suits her and her fiancé.
One said:
“If people are mad because they feel entitled to alcohol, then they can leave and go find a bar.”
While another wrote:
“[Guests who] feel entitled to get drunk on your dime [are not people you want to be around].”
What would your advice be in this situation?
