Parents have many fears.
And one fear at the very top of that fear list is having another child. You know you’ll be able to manage, you were actually surprised how well you settled into your new life with the first… it’s the sibling you’re worried about. How do you tell them that a new baby brother or sister is on the way? And how do you ensure that you settle into life as a new family and your first still feels included?
Just relax, we have the expert parenting tips for you. After this you’ll know how, when and where to tell your eldest and how, when and where to introduce the two children.
And remember, if things are rough for the first few weeks, it will all be okay. Soon enough the two of them will be sprawled out on the floor playing cars together and you’ll be wondering what you ever worried about…
The moment they realise…
At some point during your pregnancy, your child will realise that something is different. Change is upsetting to a child, but you can prevent this anxiety by explaining what is going to happen.
Breaking the news…
Most parents find that it’s best to keep it simple. For a child under three, it’s best to wait until the last trimester when you are really showing before giving them any notice of what’s going to happen. Telling them too early will be confusing since they have no sense of time passing. You could connect the due date with a holiday to help. Saying, “Your new brother or sister will be here by Christmas” will make it easier for them
Spend time with your little one…
Bring your child through their baby album. Plant scenes in their head and help your toddler understand what to expect.
Include them in the pregnancy…
You can take your child to a prenatal check-up if you want to include them in the pregnancy. When the baby kicks, have him touch your tummy and talk to the baby. Let them know it’s an experience that they are very much involved in.
Prepare your child for their substitute mum…
When you’re in the hospital, who’s going to mind your child? Make it sound exciting for them, “When Granny comes you’ll get to play/bake/paint…” Encourage them to visit the hospital too so you don’t bring home a complete mini stranger.
